WOW!

YAY GOD!  After all my whining and moaning and praying about how I hate being home alone, God has decided to give us charge over two little ones!!  YAY!  A 6 yr old girl and a 2 yr old boy will come to live with us on Monday!  Im so excited... and wait until Miss Madi hears about this... she is going to be SOOO excited!  A sister AND a brother all at once!?!? She is going to be in heaven (until she realizes that she will have to share her precious daddy and mimi with them, lol!)

So... heres a little about them.... and I think that this is ALL God!
-The girl... we will call her a A and the boy B (for now)
  *Has ADD and ADHD and is on for meds for her conditions
  *Was possibly s*xually abused
  *Has acted out sexually
  *Is overly affectionate with men in particular
  *Is in 1st grade
  *And (best part) is in Madi's school already, so no changing of schools for this one (YAY, and Madi's school is amazing and Im so in love with this school and so glad that A will be able to go there too!)

-The boy, B
  *Is completely on track devolpmentally
  *Is a calm and well-behaved boy

SOOOOO.... I am requesting your prayers PLEASE!  We know that A will be in the same room as Madi and Madi was s*xually abused as well and we just want PURE Jesus in that room.  For there to be no acting out, and for the girls to just get a long and for all the appropriate behavior we have taught Madi to have an affect on A.  For some major healing for A and B... especially A.  They have been in care for one month and are already being moved to a new home.  So three homes in a little over a month can really mess a kid up.  We need WISDOM!  Especially for the add/adhd thing.  We beleive Madi has adhd and have avoided meds since she came to us, but we have just made the decision to put her on meds becuase we have tried all the diet things, so I will need to supreme patience and wisdom in dealing with these 2 and knowing what meds to keep A on.  It seems she is probably very drugged and I dont believe that is best for a kid.  Also pray for smooth transistions, APPROPRIATE bonding with us, and peace to reign in our home.

Feel free to pass this on... the more people praying the better... right!?!  :o) Thanks!
Oh... does anyone have any little boy bedding they could donate?  We only have girl stuff... and limited funds to purchase boy bedding!!!  We have both a crib and a bed in his room, so we can decide which would be best for him when he gets here and after talking to hs current family.  Thanks! :o)

Good, Bad, and the Ugly!

Last night, I stayed up until about 3:30 reading a blog written by a wonderful mom of 13... 3 of whom were adopted from Ghana.  Right now they are walking the very hard road of disruption (when an adopted kid has to be removed from his adoptive home and placed elsewhere, usually for the safety of the other siblings) and have shared this road on her blog.  Mike and I know that someday we will adopt internationally and it was so refreshing to read someones HONEST story of an international adoption.  So often the adoption community requires adoptive parents to stay hush hush about the "bad" side of life and then adoptive parents go into it blind and are blown away when a child comes home acting out verbally, physically, or even s*xually.  Yes, I said it.  Sometimes adopted kids have been abused s*xually and then continue the cycle by abusing someone else.  We as parents MUST know that this situations exsist in order to learn how to deal with it and help these poor kids to HEAL!  And as an adoptive parent that is my first goal, to help this child be a healed and whole person so they can live a full and rich life!!
All this got me thinking about the incident that happened to my blog back in the summer.  I know that it was simply Satan trying to silence my voice.  Trying to keep me from being honest about our journey through foster care.  Because I will always say that this isnt for everyone, its hard, and sometimes I wanna quit, but it is the MOST rewarding thing that my husband and I have ever done.  It is worth it. 
I really want people to know he good and bad sides about this.  I know a couple who went through years of infertility and decided to try foster-to-adopt, but didnt research it and didnt realize the problems kids can come with.  They accepted a family of 4 and within 2 weeks all four kids had to be placed elsewhere and the family left the foster care program for 2 years.  Why this placement failed had nothing to do with 4 kids being placed all at once, and everything to do with 3 of the 4 kids having severe attachtment issues and the parents having no idea that these issues even exsist.  This couple now has a sibling group of 3 with them and are successfully parenting them and one of them has RAD.  What changed was this couple started reading and learning and hearing the ugly side of adoption and foster care.  They became equipped and now are doing a wonderful job helping the eldest to overcome the attachment issues!
All this to say, Im prayfully thinking of exposing more of our story to help others out there.  To let the world know what it truly is like and to know that you can overcome these attachtment issues and you can make a difference in a kids life.