Dee Dee's Day

So today was Dee Dee's appt day... she had 4.  So  the first one was at 10:30... and lasted until 2.  Thus, missing the other 3.  Erg.  Oops!
We had the honor of meeting with a woman who is a S*xual Abuse Specialist... well, I dont think thats her actual title, but thats pretty much what she does! lol! 
At the end of this ridiculously long meeting, her basic opinion was this child is not normal.  Her affected behaviors, and "blankness", and "zoning out" are not normal.  These things are NOT the result of trauma alone, or her add, adhd, or odd (oppositional defiance disorder) or any of the meds.  This specialist said "I am NOT a psychologist so i cannot diagnosis this child, but I have seen over 6000 kids and have never seen a child act this way".  She pretty much confirmed Mike and I's suspisions and our caseworkers as well.  She is going through life blank and missing life and its not ok.  So we are going to be searching for a Pediatric Neuro-Psychologist.  And I want her to see the best... even if we have to drive to Philly, Hershey, Pittsburg or beyond.  She also did say becuase of Dee Dee's complete lack of engaging, she is unable to tell if there was s*xual abuse, and even if there was, Dee could NEVER be a credible witness.  Thats a little disheartening.  IF (big IF) she was abused that way, I want her to be able to be her voice in this and for her to be able to know she did everything she could have done to make sure no one else is abused.  The other person that was possibly abused was only 3, so she wouldnt be much of a witness either.
I say if becuase I havent seen any acting out, although the other foster family did.  So I dont want to put an accusastion on someone if it isnt true and if I dont have any solid proof.   I am also kinda waiting for that check in my spirit to say, thats it... thats how I will know.  I got that with Madi a LONG time ago, when she first came to us.  But I believe, even if she was abused, thats the least of her problems!!  I am so excited to find out what is truly going on and how best to help her.  I want the eureka moment from the doctors that tell us how to reach this little girl!  I know it will happen... I know there is a person to reach.  I truly believe she has the potential to NOT be labeled mentally retarded... or having a low IQ.  I think there is simply a wall up.  I want to learn why the wall is there... how it got there... and how to knock it down to release God's little princess inside. 
So, now starts this Momma's Quest to "find" our little girl in there.  I know we can.  I beleive the Lord brought her here to find her! 

Anyone know of a leading Pediatric Nuero-Psychologist on the East Coast?? loL!